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A few years ago, I made one of the biggest purchases I'd ever made for myself. I'd been researching and considering for months, trying to decide. By the time I finally clicked "buy," I expected to feel terrified. Instead...I felt relieved. Not because I knew everything would work out perfectly. Uncertainty was still present. I still wondered whether I'd follow through fully. Making a choice ended the internal debate and freed up mental energy. I was viewing it as a choice between certainty and uncertainty. But really it was trading one uncertainty for another. I trusted myself to respond to whatever might come up, and to know my follow-through would be enough even if it wasn’t perfect. When I talk about self-trust, nervous systems, and a brain that likes to go rogue, I’m speaking from experience. I very much did not wake up one day with everything figured out (nor will I). There was a slow realization that I need to be able to work with the brain I already have instead of the one I’ve been hoping would appear in the mail. Love Your Brain is the place where I've gathered the ideas, experiments, reflections, and tools that have genuinely changed the way I move through my own life. Not because it creates perfect consistency… though if you find that pleeease send it my way ;) You won’t be a productivity machine. You’ll be a messy human person who can skillfully navigate the hard days, and create a life working with yourself instead of constantly in conflict. Over the next week, I'll share more about what it includes, who it's for, and how it works before we start the next live round on September 8th. Today I want to leave you with one seed… Maybe you've spent long enough trying to become someone else. If that's the case...you might like what's coming. take care, Mattia p.s. What could shift if you stop waiting for a replacement brain before building a life that supports you? p.p.s. Don’t want to hear about Love Your Brain ever? Click here and I'll be back atcha in a few weeks |
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