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Weaving in Recovery (and cat update w pics)
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After any big project or creative output, of course the body needs some recovery time. Right now I'm weaving that in strategically, because I'm also about to head into a busy October with three (3!) different trips. In fact, when I was looking ahead trying to make some social plans, I realized that I didn't have any free weekend days until the end of October. This is not normal for me. The more busy I am, the easier it is to switch into old habits of hunker down and just keep working until it's all done! Alternated of course with periods of complete paralysis. I do not like that cycle. Thankfully I have a good distraction that's also (usually) calming to my nervous system: cat integration play time! If you heard this podcast episode, you know we had to do a complete re-introduction of the cats after An Incident. We took it extremely slowly, and are still doing nights apart. Part of what we're supposed to keep an eye out for is activated energy, and then redirect it with playtime. Well today, for the first time in many months, Mac did his little playtime signal, which is standing on the stairs, putting a paw on the wall, and throwing his head back while making dramatic eye contact. It made me so happy to immediately engage with playtime! Besides the huge relief of the re-integration going well... it's also giving me many reminders every day to slow down and enjoy what's happening at this very moment. Which is a form of recovery for me. (As opposed to being entirely focused on the upcoming tasks.) Yay little breaks! happy equinox, Mattia |
Hi, I'm Mattia Maurée (they/them)
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